Have you been doing talk therapy to try to heal your anxious attachment style? But you still feel triggered and anxious in dating and in your relationshpis?
If yes, introducing: A Revolutionary Method that gets to the root cause of anxiety and releases It—Leaving You with a heightened sense of inner freedom, mental focus, and increased energy.
If you've dealt with anxious thoughts that hurt your personal life, professional life, or relationships...
...And you've tried every method out there to "manage" your anxiety, just for the anxious thoughts to come back...
...Then this might be the most important thing you'll read today.
After years of working with clients and certifying myself in every single anxiety release method I could find...
…I've found a way to ASSESS your nervous system, discover the root cause of your anxiety, and extract that root from your subconscious—leaving you FREE of anxious thoughts and enjoying a sense of profound self-love, increased energy, focus, and lightness while walking through life.
Just imagine what it would feel like to…
✔️ Remove behaviors connected to anxiety (such as constantly seeking external validation, re-reading the same text message thirty times, being hypervigilant, and being on high alert based on others’ behaviors and emotions) almost effortlessly
✔️ Have the freedom to focus on productive things, such as your professional goals, your health and fitness, your family, and loved ones (because you're not "managing" anxious thoughts anymore)
✔️ Feel "good enough" to pursue your personal, professional, and relationship goals, instead of being bombarded by the thought of "What if everyone leaves me and I'll be alone forever?!"
✔️ Feel attracted to partners that respect, support, and love you; instead of choosing emotionally unavailable partners that undervalue, betray, or leave you if you “do” or “say” something wrong.
✔️ Live without the annoying voice that tells you everyone's judging you, that things will go wrong, or that you're in a life-or-death situation all the time.
✔️ No longer feel "broken" or “flawed” because you have anxious thoughts while making peace with your past and starting to validate and love yourself
✔️ Forget about always assuming the worst-case scenario and having a self-defeating attitude towards life, and instead program your mind to prepare for the best-case scenario.
Now, if you consider yourself an anxious person, chances are…
You’ve Tried Every Method Under The Sun To “Manage” Your Anxiety.
Many techniques, methods, and therapies out there make big promises. But when you apply them to your life, they work for a while…
…But you can feel the anxious thoughts gradually creeping back in.
After a few days (or even hours), you're back to a highly anxious state.
Mindfulness
While practicing mindfulness, you "quiet your mind", and thus you don't think anxious thoughts. But when you go back to work, for example, you'll need to start thinking again. And the issue is that ALL your thoughts come back, including your anxious and fearful thoughts!
Breathwork
Offers a “high” and a sense of calm while doing it. But you can’t do breathwork 24/7! Eventually, the anxious thoughts creep back in.
Yoga
It's an awesome exercise. You might feel free of anxiety while practicing it. But what happens when you go back to your daily life?
I mean, just have a look at the most popular methods to manage anxiety out there:
Maybe You’ve Tried…
Reading Self-help and Psychology Books
These help you understand your symptoms and its causes. But one thing is to KNOW your issue; another thing is to SOLVE it for good. (For some, knowing their issues makes it even worse for them, because now they know what's wrong but don't know how to fix it, causing even more anxiety!)
Daily Affirmations
You chant your mantras all day long, but what if you miss a day? Your real beliefs shine through, causing anxiety again.
Dieting, Supplements, Cutting out Caffeine
It's an awesome exercise. You might feel free of anxiety while practicing it. But what happens when you go back to your daily life?
They’re based on the belief that anxiety is “who you are” and that you’re stuck this way.
But this is WRONG!
Though anxiety is a normal human response, it’s not who you are.
Every person, every baby is born feeling secure and worthy.
This feeling of being secure and worthy can be taken away from you by small things that you aren’t consciously aware of.
But it’s running the show in your subconscious mind.
Now, if you consider yourself an anxious person, chances are…
These things that you aren’t consciously aware of that are running the show:
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Being shamed for your emotions
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Emotional neglect (your parents not being there for you emotionally or physically)
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A stressed-out parent(s)
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A parent(s) with a physical illness
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Being judged by your schoolteachers, classmates, or parents
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You have gone through a difficult heartbreak in your teenage/adult years...
When these events occur early on it wires our attachment for anxiety and a lot of uncertainty.
And these tough experiences created a belief(s) about yourself, other people, and the world around you.
That belief(s) could've been:
❌ “I'm not good enough”
❌ “I'm a failure”
❌ “I'm unworthy of love”
❌ “People always leave me”
❌ “I attract the wrong partners”
❌ “I need to be perfect to be loved”
❌ “I need others to feel safe”
❌ “I stay too long in the wrong relationships”
❌ “I need to ‘earn’ love”
Or any other belief that causes anxiety on a day-to-day basis.
But here is the good news…
If that experience "programmed" that belief, then it’s possible to "reprogram" or remove that belief, and feel good and secure in your own skin.
You CAN create an internal secure attachment.
And when you do, you don't rely on others' approval and aren't hypervigilant about others' behavior.
When you do this, the change becomes permanent. You won’t have the same experience of the situation that caused anxiety again. This means your anxiety will no longer control you after you finish meditating, doing affirmations, or taking your supplements. (In fact, many people who do what I’m about to show you no longer feel the need to follow their old “anxiety-management routines”. They might take supplements for their health and self-care, but not because they’re escaping anxious thoughts!)
And here’s the best thing:
Since you're no longer carrying all the energy of those negative beliefs that created your anxiety...
You’re Now Free To Choose Your OWN Empowering Thoughts, Beliefs, and Emotions.
It might sound "too good to be true"...
...But I'm about to show you that it's not only very possible but also simple to do. (I’ll also show you the hundreds of people who have gone through this process and healed the experience that caused them anxiety.)
So, if you have ever…
❌ Been confused and disappointed about the partners you choose, thinking to yourself, "Why am I attracted to emotionally unavailable people?!"
❌ Felt "broken" because you've tried every method out there to "fix" your anxiety, without getting lasting results.
❌ Felt constantly anxious in your relationships, afraid to be abandoned, rejected, betrayed, or lied to.
❌ Dealt with physical symptoms related to anxiety, such as insomnia, tense muscles, and teeth grinding.
❌ Felt constantly afraid of rejection, being exposed, or terrified about what others might think of you.
❌ Went through a tough breakup which showed you your blind spots, including a fear of abandonment and putting yourself & your needs last
❌ Felt almost ready to throw in the towel and think, "I guess this is just how I am", but still felt hopeful that there might be a true solution out there…
...Then you're in the right place. Let me show you the solution:
Introducing: The Anxious to Secure Method
The Anxious to Secure method is designed to address the root cause of your anxiety and release ("not manage") it.
It's a simple, twelve-week process. And by the end of it, you feel a deep sense of safety and self-love, and a lightness that comes from not carrying anxious thoughts anymore.
Let me share with you exactly how we accomplish this:
Step one: Nervous System Rewiring
Anxious thoughts happen in your head. But your body—more specifically, your nervous system—stores the energy behind those thoughts.
When you're in an anxious state, your nervous system is loaded with energy. You're in what's called a "fight-or-flight" response.
If you've read books on dealing with anxiety, your anxious attachment, or healing trauma, that might be common knowledge to you.
What you might not know is that...
Not every nervous system responds to the same methods!
That's right. Your nervous system might respond well to one method and poorly to another. And this is an uncommon reason why many types of therapy don’t work for your situation.
That’s why we create a Nervous System Assessment during the first few weeks of Anxious to Secure.
This assessment lets us know what your unique nervous system responds to the most, making the rest of our process fail-proof.
This also helps us find out your "patterns" when you're in an anxious state...
...Which leads me to the next step:
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Step two: Nervous System Rewiring
After we’ve found out the "nature" of your nervous system with our Nervous System Assessment, we then create a specific anxiety-release map for you.
This helps us with two things:
✔️ Use the right methods to release your anxiety, and
✔️ Process the anxiety and let it naturally subside
This helps you remain grounded while we work with your subconscious mind in the following weeks to fully release the root cause of your anxiety.
Now, we get into the good stuff...
Step Three: Feeling Secure from Within
Remember how I told you that you have anxious thoughts in your mind, but your body stores the energy behind these thoughts?
Then part of your recovery process is to address the body too.
So, through specific somatic exercises, we get you out of your head and grounded in your body. This prepares us for the work ahead but also makes you bulletproof against anxious thoughts.
What you’ll discover is, when you create that safety in your body…
...Your anxious thoughts disappear!
And this is exactly what we’ll do in the following step:
Step Four: Root Cause Resolution
Now that we've helped you to feel safe in your body, it's time to get to the root cause.
Based on the results of our Nervous System Rewiring, we use the most effective tool for your own nervous system.
The tools we use inside Anxious to Secure are:
Brainspotting
A method that uses your visual field to process the past experiences causing your anxiety and fear of abandonment. Brainspotting uses your eyes to harness your body's natural ability to self-heal.
Somatic Parts Work (IFS)
Do you struggle with people pleasing, codependency, constantly seeking external validation, and self-abandoning (i.e., putting your partner’s needs before your own)? Somatic parts work Aims to release unresolved emotional trauma stuck inside your body that are causing these protector parts to show up. When the emotional sensations are processed with somatic therapy, anxious thoughts lose their "fuel" and release on their own. (Most wounds that create anxiety lie in the body, not the mind. This is why talk therapy isn't always helpful for an anxious person.)
Inner Child Healing
It helps us change the meaning of your past and heal abandonment wounds, trauma, and beliefs like “I’m not good enough”. By healing your inner child, your whole perspective on the present changes. You realize that the inner child (and his/her fears) was running the show all along—and now your secure, adult self is in control.
RTT Hypnotherapy
It differs from traditional hypnotherapy because it doesn't just use positive imagery. It uses principles of neuroplasticity to find out when, where, and how your unhelpful beliefs (that led to anxiety) were formed. We then release those and create new helpful beliefs, emotions, and actions.
These methods make it so that anxiety no longer has control over you. That way you no longer "carry it around" or "manage it" when the load gets too heavy.
When you follow the methods used in Anxious to Secure, there’s no anxiety to manage anymore.
And I know this might sound unreal. But don't take my word for it. Hear it from others who used to have crippling anxiety that affected their relationships, their physical health, and their professional and personal success:
What Others Are Saying About Anxious To Secure:
When you follow the methods used in Anxious to Secure, there's no anxiety to manage anymore.
And I know this might sound unreal. But don't take my word for it. Hear it from others who used to have crippling anxiety that affected their relationships, their physical health, and their professional and personal success:
What Others Are Saying About Anxious To Secure:
Meet your guide
Valerie
I dealt with having relationships with narcissistic and emotionally unnavailable men, chronic anxiety, and panic attacks for nearly two decades
The anxiety was so intense, it actually manifested in physial symptoms
such as chronic joint pain, adrenal fatigue, and a lot of acne
Me before
This led me to go through traditional talk therapy…
…But I'd leave each session feeling worse, because my therapist would tell me what to do and I still wouldn't feel better.
They’d tell me to challenge my thoughts, but nothing worked.
I felt constantly anxious and I felt even more shame about myself which fueled the cycle.
So at that point, I decided to take my healing in my own hands.
I was so driven towards my own healing, that I studied and certified myself in EVERY single method I could find that promised to reduce anxiety.
It was that serious for me because my anxiety was so bad, that…
✔️ I needed external validation in order to feel loved and safe.
✔️ I never believed I was good enough.
✔️ I would attract emotionally unavailable men.
✔️ I would settle for less in all areas of my life, thinking “I’m not worthy” to go for the success I deserved.
So, I got trained in:
✔️ Somatic therapy
✔️ Somatic Parts work (IFS)
✔️ Nervous system regulation
✔️ Brainspotting
✔️ Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT)
✔️ Different variations of hypnotherapy
✔️ Trauma release methods
Through what I had learned and, most importantly, by applying it in my own life...
...I was able to watch my fear of abandonment, anxious attachment (and toxic relationships with emotionally unavailable men), and low self-esteem banish from my life.
And now…
...And as you can see in the testimonials, these clients have freed themselves from these crippling symptoms too.
So, here’s what I can tell you for sure:
I've been through chronic anxiety and relationships with emotionally unavailable men myself. I've healed all of that and helped people do the same with my proven process. That's why I can tell you with full confidence: Your anxiety is NOT who you are and we can release it together. You don’t have to feel anxious and not good enough forever, and you can feel more joyful, and free, have more fulfilling relationships, and have more mental space to use it on things that matter.
Now, if you'd like to start your journey towards total freedom from your anxious attachment...
...Then book a call below so we can:
✔️ Understand your current patterns
✔️ Find the root cause of your anxious attachment together
✔️ Build a plan so you can release that anxiety, have secure relationships, and feel unshakable confidence and self-love.
I've worked with 100+ clients and have mastered the Anxious to Secure method
